The C word... This is hard..Your mind starts playing games on you. Some people ask if I am in pain..Yes, I tell them..What do you think I just had surgery. I have 3 incisions on the side of my body and I had a tube coming out with fluids going into a box! What do you think?
But does cancer hurt? You bet. It hurts in ways that are not physical anymore...
That first diagnosis is like a knife into your heart, a slap in the face.... That first diagnosis? That's a punch to your stomach. Waiting for the results of a scan? Waiting for the doctor to call? Waiting for some lab test, patologist and the list goes on...??? It hurts in the middle of the night, when you're alone with your thoughts and your tears, and you have to deal with the idea that maybe, just maybe,you wont see your kids get married, have children, be happy! It hurts when something simple reminds you that you may not be around in a year..two years. It hurts when you think about the things you're going to miss.
But that's not the worst of it. Cancer affects everyone around you...You see it in the tears of a friend when you tell them. You see it in the eyes of your doctor who knows that in a few seconds, he has to give you bad news. You see it in the eyes of your loved ones, friends and family, who want so much to help, but can't.. What can they do? So to answer the question that I have been asked for several days now, "does cancer hurt?" Well, I haven't felt a thing — except for when it hurts so badly you can hardly stand it.
So now... what do you think????
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Well I guess I didn't think of it that way....From a first person perspective, it's a scary thing. It's not like me...sitting here from far away, thinking that something like this could never happen to me...or to my fam...This is something that always happened to someone else. Before, I could say, "that poor guy" or "that poor girl" and give them my condolences or mearly offer to help in some way...then once I did that, I go on with my own life with nary a further thought about what's going on. But now that its happening to someone i love, someone that I've known all my life, it really hits home. Even before I knew about your condition, you were never far from my thoughts. I've always been proud to be your cousin, and now, I'm even more proud, not because I feel bad, but because of the fight you're about to undertake, the positive attitude and determination that it will take to win this thing...that is something that I'll never forget.
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Easter... I can't help to think if I will be here next year. I will be leaving on Tuesday towards Oklahoma to the Cancer Treatment Center of America in hopes for a different prognosis and/or treatment. If treatment/and prognosis is the same I will then stay in Missouri, close to home and 2 minutes from my house at the Siteman Cancer Center. If not, I will probably travel to OK for treatment whenever needed. I will be in OK for a week doing all sorts of lab tests, CTscans, PET scans, xrays and meeting with several doctors. I am trying to be optimistic but still very scared. Will keep you all posted and if you pray, remember me...
ReplyDeleteGood luck Lisa....Let me know how it turns out.
ReplyDeleteI am already at the Cancer Treatment Center of America in Oklahoma. It is a beautiful place and everyone is soooo nice. I have a full day of interviews tomorrow. For some reason I am not able to start the TV or change it!!! WTF
ReplyDeleteTiti I hope everythin goes well and I hope to hear good news soon.. love you and your on my mind!
ReplyDeletekarina
Good luck sis !!! i love u mucho mucho !! take care !
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Mom
ReplyDeleteStop worrying about missing Jerry Springer.
Focus or take a shower.
LOL
LOVE YOU
Ok.. So I got the TV on and working.. Great accomplishment!!! Yeah for me!!! The day is full of appointments, from one doctor to the other one, blood test, nurses and so on. Still trying to squeeze an MRI of the brain to make sure I am not crazy up there I guess... Oh.. they things that they will find!!!! lol
ReplyDeleteBesides that, people are really nice, food is really cheap and a lot of seniors!!!! No hot ones yet! But, still looking! Hopefully Bobby is not reading this!
Will keep you posted.. thanks for all the support! Love u all...
Lisa: I spoke of you today with Betty at Career Day...we wish you the best and are thinking of you dear....you know you must keep that positive attitude and accept what God gives...but know that you have done for others all your life and now let someone do for you! you deserve it lisa. Keep the faith! Keep the love of family and support and keep knowing that I truly think of you as a friend...remember when we both cried at that training... ? Im sure it was for different reasons in our life but the experience I had was fulfilling...it got to me and made me think....when life gives you lemons lisa! make lemonade!
ReplyDeleteAnother day of tests and doctors appointments and meetings and focus groups and the lkist goes on and on.... I am dead tired!!! Oh.. I guess that's not a joke anymore! HUbby is flying in on Sunday, cant wait!!! Monday we have the meeting with all the doctors to see what are we doing with this. Coming back to STL on Tuesday. Miss the kids! Did I just said that???? Ok.. Something is wrong!!!!
ReplyDeleteTime to go to sleep!
Mom- I do NOT approve of not being able to talk to you all the time.
ReplyDeleteI know you miss us...we miss you..
Come back! Please! I have soo much to tell you. I miss my best friend ♥♥♥
Love you
I just got out of a PETscan. I am full of radiation and I am not able to go shopping (WTF), I can't be close to children or pregnant ladies. If I must be close to someone, I need to be at least 6 ft. away. Yesterday I did the MRI of the brain (scary!). I should be done now until Monday when we meet with the doctors and I know what's going on and what typr of treatment I will be having. My hubby is coming tomorrow night to stay with me until I fly home. Can't wait!!! I miss my family a lot...
ReplyDeleteI went to the movies last night with Mona and her husband and they took me to eat some gooood mexican food. She has been a blessing to me and my family and I am pretty sure she has saved my life telling me about this place, I guess I owe her!
I also want to thank all the people that have call me to see how I am doing and all the facebook good wishes and words of encouragement.
My family has been a constant support through all this process and I am thankful for them. Love u all and I miss you! For all the other people that claim to be my friend, huuummm... I have not heard from you! What a surprise!! I am beginning to sound sarcastic so it's time to log off.... Peace out!
hey titi i love you tons i log on to your blog like every day to see what ur up to and whats going on. and to MONA i think that all of us that love you owe her for tellin you about that place. i miss u tons and i hope everything is going well.. i know NO SHOPPING... jesus that hurt my hear to hear... thats a big no bueno! but i love ya lady .. im going to bed hope to see ya soon...
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karina
Mom-
ReplyDeleteYou have been my rock my entire life.
Its my turn.
I will be your rock.
Love you ♥
Got out of the doctor's office now. Dr. is not convince that I have lung cancer. He knows I have cancer but dont think its lung because tumors are not growing. Unless I have a rare kind of lung cancer, more tissue analisys will be done to check that. Will start oral chemo, no hair loss just rashes. Going back home ...tomorrow and back to OK in a month. Cant wait to see the kids and go back to work!!! People have been super nice here, i will recommend this place to anyone going through this. Now I need a vacation !!!! Next week!
ReplyDeleteI am back home!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWill go back to work on Thursday and school tomorrow. I will also go on vacation next week. Can't wait!
I went to work all day today and last night I went school. Felt good to go back to the routine. I am very tired now and looking forward to the weekend. A student of one of my Step Up to Leadership, and now a freind, came to see me today at the office. She had a tumor removed from her brain in January and will now start chemo and radiation. She has no hair but very happy that she is alive and very optimistic. It was so nice to talk to her. I sometimes wish I had her energy and her eagerness to live. The mind likes to play tricks with you.... Time to log off....
ReplyDeleteIt has been a long time since I updated my blog. We just came back from vacation. Hubby and the 4 kids!!! It was hectic but a lot of fun. Magic Kingdom, Universal Studios and Sea World. We needed to get out of here and forget about all this cancer crap. But now I am back and everything comes back to you as soon as you start umpacking. Now the big decision... Should In go back and get treated at Tulsa or stay here.
ReplyDeletePros and cons for both sides..
Cancer Treatment Center in Tulsa- Have to travel and pay for hotel every time I go. It will be a month next week and I still have not received the pills after calling several times. I have not received a call with the results of the biopsy that they did while I was there. Great people and they specialize at what they do but no guarantees of course, and I will be by myself. A chemo pill to see if it works, if not regular chemo.
Siteman Cancer Center-2 minutes from my house, close to family and friends. Can start process this week if I want to and lets fight it and get rid of this and move on. Regular chemo aggresive treatment but then you are done.
I dont like when I have no control of my life. I do not function properly. I need my life back!!!
Decisions.. decisions...